Way back in 2016, I was writing about the list of questions which needs to be asked to a Future Spouse before freezing our lives full of commitments and others. I was quite very busy at that time but did very good drafting at those times which had been a bible for most of my batchmates and colleagues while choosing their better halves. Most of them appreciated for my work, while a few scolded me for advising and not practising. Be is a Man or Women, the process of making a decision involves various factors. No one is the ideal match and no one is perfect including me.
Life isn’t all about interrogation or questioning. But also, matching the equivalency is important. In this post, I have compiled some of the questions, which I induced my folks about what to ask and what not to ask. Try asking some day by day, not all at once. If asked, I am not responsible for any collateral damages caused.
No one can define a set of questions for the better half and specifically, women are nurtured with bundles of questions. I am not concentrating on the complex riddle based questions which your wife may ask in your life. These questions are just the conversation initiator for any relationship, mostly romantic life locking relationships. A minute silence and salute to all those who are trying to achieve their PhD level in conversation with these questions.
It is not that everyone should answer every question but few variables like “I don’t want to answer”, “Hmmm…”, “OK”, “Pass…”, “Lolz…”, “K”, and other such should be accumulated to see the conversation levels. Also, the time frame to answer the question matters.
All the Best Folks!!!
- Are you aware of your own biases regarding race and ethnicity? What are they? Where did they come from? (We aren’t born biased, we learn it, and it’s important to trace where it was learned.)
- Does your work environment look more like the United Nations, or as a mirror of yourself? How about your personal life?
- Have different ideas about race, ethnicity and difference ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?
- Have race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a source of tension and stress for you in a relationship?
- How important is the Caste or Religion or Community for you?
- How would you feel if your child dated someone of a different race or ethnicity? The same gender? How would you feel if he or she married this person?
- Is it important to you that your partner shares your vision of race, ethnicity, and difference?
- What did you learn about race and ethnic differences as a child?
- What were your family’s views of race, ethnicity, and difference?
- Which of those beliefs from childhood do you still carry; and which have you shed?
