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Setting goals from being a kid was challenging for me. The problem is being realistic had been a question for me. I had to set a very high goal set and never compromise on the quantity as well as the quality. I don’t want this option as an attempt to run away from the poised environment. Deciding to move abroad was a no-brainer! I was ready to pack my bags, take a loss on our house, and put 6,800 miles between me and the bright golden looming spectre of disappointment. Humans are hard-wired to avoid stressful situations, and the “grass is always greener” mentality plays right into this. It would have been easy to let my desire to run away from responsibility influence my reasoning for moving abroad. Instead, we spent several weeks crunching numbers, doing research, and having deep conversations about whether or not this was the right decision.
The idea of getting out of your comfort zone is to put yourself into a state of more heightened mental awareness where you can be more productive, harness your creativity, learn to deal with unexpected changes and new things and then find it easier to do all of this in the future. It’s easy to stay in a rut when you stay at home, but moving to a foreign country alone is an opportunity to push yourself.
When life gives you lemons, it is always wise to make the best out of it. We expected depth to be more important than breadth because the longer people live abroad, the more opportunities they have to engage in self-discerning reflections; in contrast, whether these experiences occur in a single foreign country or in multiple foreign countries should be less important. In a nutshell, depth is more important than the breath.
Running away from home rarely ends well. We can just reinvent life. No one knows the old you and no one are there to question the changes or compare you to your old self. Just because of personal or professional reasons if you are moving out, don’t. You need to reconsider and replenish. Give yourself the time and space to process the real reasons to move to another country. This is not just visiting the country for a few days or taking a break.